Are you a happy, upbeat person? Do you smile at yourself in the mirror every morning? Do you take being happy seriously? You should.
I want you to focus on how to continue to be happy. Finding happiness is absolutely essential for your overall life and even your love life. You need to look for ways every day to be happy. No one person or place or thing can make you happy. Your happiness comes from you and only you.
Some tips that have worked for me are:
1. Don’t rely on others to make you happy. This is totally up to you; you choose if you want to be happy or not. Being grumpy for a few minutes now and then is okay, but you need to take a deep breath, exhale, and always, always focus on the positive things in your life. (Your Mr. Wonderful was not someone that you really even liked anyway and he surely did not make you happy either. You could never ever rely on him to make you happy, only miserable. Move on).
2. Never be envious of what others have. Appreciate what you have in life and decide for yourself if you need more happiness based on your own needs. Then create a new path and set goals for yourself and go for it. (Be glad that you are rid of Mr. Wonderful and his negativity, petty comments, and gloomy thoughts. You deserve much more happiness than he ever brought to your relationship. He will be envious of you for sure when he realizes how happy that you are without him).
3. Be happy for others. They worked hard for what they got and if you do the same, you will be happy, too. Sharing other’s happiness brings happiness to you; we can all use more of that in our lives. (Work harder at finding a real Mr. Wonderful this time around because your ex-Mr. Wonderful was not so wonderful at all. I am sure that all of your friends are actually happy for you, too, because you got rid of your less than perfect partner).
4. Be nice to everyone. Doing acts of kindness always makes you feel better. Helping others is really helping you feel better. Always show empathy to others. (Be a person who shies away from gossip no matter how tempting it might be. Trashing someone else is not being nice).
5. Be grateful for what you have. Focus on what you have and be thankful for it.
(You are rid of Mr. Wonderful and thank God every day that he is out of your life. Things can only get better for you).
6. Know that some things cannot be changed, accept this, and move on. (Know what you can change. You gave Mr. Wonderful the boot. You have moved on. You are so much happier. Accept this).
7. Change what you can. Go beyond your comfort zone to improve your life.
(No one is going to do this for you. You have to go for what you really want.
It might not be easy but you can do it).
8. Forgive those who have hurt you and let it go. (The day that I forgave Mr. Wonderful was the moment I felt a giant load lift off of my shoulders. No surprise really because I often had to carry the two of us in our life together).
9. Let things happen and stop trying to control every detail of your life. (You cannot “drive the bus” in life; you are simply on the bus. Crap happens: i.e. Mr. Wonderful. How you deal with it is how you live the rest of your life).
10. Stay surrounded by happy people in work, at play, and in your social network. (Find people who lift you up. Step back from those who bring you down; i.e. Mr. Wonderful. Find friends who really appreciate you and see the good things in you).
So, be happy feisty ladies. Life is too short to focus on gloom and doom. Live your life with a smile on your face everyday. And at the end of the day, write five things that were positive in your life that day in a “Grateful Journal”. If you really think about it, you probably can think of more than five. Life is a blessing. Be happy!