Welcome to “Just Ask Elizabeth.” Week #3
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Dear Elizabeth,
After some investigating, I just found out that my husband, who has only a green card, has a “second family” in another country. I am hurt, humiliated, and angry. What do I do?
Signed,
Jean
Dear Jean,
So sorry that you have to experience this.
How did you come about this information? Was it through your own investigating? If so, wow, what a shock. Despite the hard blow, consider yourself lucky to have found this out instead of being blindsided later on. If you two had been married for ten years or longer your husband would be entitled to a part of your pension and Social Security. Time to get moving if this is the case! A friend of mine, Kathy, was in the same situation. After discovering her husband’s second family, she managed to divorce him right before the ten-year period was up. Through her divorce attorney, she found a great private investigator and divorced him right before their ten-year anniversary. Whew! Kathy got rid of her husband and saved her pension and Social Security for her own future. I wish you the best of luck and strength during this time. Keep going!
Best,
Elizabeth