Dear Elizabeth,
It seems no matter where I go, I am surrounded by rude, mannerless people. In the grocery store, driving, you name it, they seem to be everywhere! I know that we are all on edge because of the pandemic, but I can never remember a time in my life when people have been like this. How do you handle this?
Signed,
I need help in dealing with rude people!
Dear “I need help in dealing with rude people,”
Great name! I know just what you mean. It feels as if people have been rude, impatient, mannerless, and intolerant of others lately. Just when one jerk appears on the scene it seems that another is right behind them! So how do we deal with these people?
Remember that their actions reveal who they are, NOT who you are, so do not take any of their actions personally.
I say “thank you” to remind them that they forgot to say these two important words. Sometimes I get ignored or receive blank stares, and other times they say “thank you” right back to me.
After a disagreement, I let the other party know how much I appreciate their perspective and end the conversation. If this is unsuccessful, I stop responding altogether.
I often ask if they want my answer or just want to state their position. It gives them a chance to clarify if their opinion is more important than mine. Sometimes I let them be right just to save myself the trouble of going back and forth. My energy is much more important!
Most importantly, I let them know that I love and respect myself and respect them too. Walking away and smiling is best, and not letting their negativity ruin my day.
Take their lemons and make lemonade. It works every time!
Best,
Elizabeth